In the last few months I have encouraged many of my single girlfriends to go online to meet men.
I’ve volunteered to photograph their profile pictures, helped edit their bios, and have been a cheerleader as they go on awkward date after awkward date. For my busiest of friends I’ve even helped sift through inboxes and “favorited” guys that I think would be good matches for them. I have seen thousands of men’s profiles, and one of the worst things a guy can do on these dating sites is have a terrible profile picture.
Single men, if you have any of these types of photos in your profile, please delete them immediately.
1. The “Posed With My Bitches” photo
Who are these women? Are they childhood friends? Exes? Hookers? Why would you tap into a woman’s insecurities/jealousy/inner bitchiness by posting a photo with one or more women ogling you?
2. The “I’m Not In The Photo” photo
Why would you include a photo without you in it? Are you the photographer? Do you have secret powers of invisibility? I want to know. Actually, no I don’t. Who cares?
3. The “Sweaty, Bare Chest” photo
If you skim through any of the dating websites, there are tons of men’s photos of pectoral selfies, usually standing in front of a mirror. I am assuming these guys are online to hook up and not looking for anything serious. If you’re a guy and are looking for someone long term, please have a profile pic that shows your face. Otherwise we’ll assume you’ve got the male version of “butter face,” or you’re a little too obsessed with your own body parts and not really interested in anyone else’s.
4. The “Caricature of An Evil Magician” photo
Some men look good with facial hair, it’s true. But if you are frequently mistaken for an evil magician, or Satan, please shave it off. Seriously.
5. The “Photo With A Random Car” photo
Unless you actually own a Bentley or a Tesla, you’re not impressing us with you standing in front of a car, especially if it’s not yours. Are you trying to show us that you like cars? Well, we all like cars. Most of us drive them to places. Keep the car obsession to yourself and we won’t share photos of us standing in front of a $10,000 Louis Vuitton purse.
6. The “I Really Need To Groom” photo
There are many types of #groomingfails photos, but ones with mullets, runaway mustaches and beards, and Rapunzel-like chest hair are among the worst. Go ask any honest woman to help you clean up. A nice shave, trim, or machete-whacking can do a world of difference.
I hope these tips were useful. Now go get ’em, tiger!